Programme

The guilt-free mum
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Do you believe that being a mum is the most important job in the world?.

If you do, you are probably searching here because things aren’t going great in your family right now, emotions are running high, people you love are struggling. And you’ve been feeling guilty but you know that it’s not all your fault.

You’ve been worrying about it but that isn’t helping and you know that it’s time you really stepped up to guide your family to be happy, healthy, strong and connected. It’s time to let go of the guilt and make a real difference for yourself and the ones you love.

How can all my family find emotional balance?

It’s now more important and even more challenging than ever to raise children who are mentally and emotionally equipped for life in the ever changing world we live in. 

But until now we don’t even have a framework for measuring mental health – we talk about stress and anxiety – but find very few solutions to it. In my experience more and more children are struggling with anxiety in its many forms – including social anxiety, school refusal and self-harm. Now, there is a framework, a way to help kids get their emotional needs met, and to thrive! It may be easier than you think!

But in my experience we have to start with Mums. Whilst you are anxious, confused and feeling guilty you cannot teach your children how to stay calm and build confidence.

Whilst we do not understand how to change our own mindset we cannot help our children to change theirs.

Until we build our own resilience (ability to cope and even thrive with change) we cannot raise resilient kids – And one thing we do know about the future is there will be change.

Why will me being free from guilt help me or my kids?

When I first started working with families as a Health Visitor in the 1990s I soon realised that new Mums had given birth to a baby, delivered a placenta and then been gifted with a huge bag of ‘guilt’.

From very early days Mums felt guilty if their babes were sick, if they couldn’t breastfeed, if they slept in a dirty nappy if they cried in public etc. etc. This was the first generation of Mums who (often) had Dads around – paternity leave was now a ‘thing’ but their own mums (the grandmothers) lived in different towns and/or were working full-time. Professionals were writing ‘baby books’ and information on being a mum was coming from the written word and not from other Mums and hands on professionals.

Feeling confident doesn’t come from books, it comes from within us and from being supported by friends, family and most importantly by other Mums. – Especially Mums who have been through this before.

Guilt is an emotion like pain or fear – it’s purpose is to be there just to alert you to something being not quite right. It is not an emotion to live with and to foster – hence guilt-free!

  • If you feel guilty that you didn’t stop your toddler falling and bumping his head – the best action is to comfort him, and give first aid as needed. Perhaps moving things to make a safer environment . Then feel confident that he is less likely to hurt himself in the same way again.
  • If you feel guilty that you spend too much time at work and not with your child, this could help you to discover ways to really have great times of connection with your child.
  • If you feel guilty that your relationship with your child’s Dad is not good, this can help you to build stronger relationships with both your child and with the people they love.

Whether your kids are tiny tots, tormented teens or timid young adults, If you want to know more about how you can start to make real changes, feel confident about the future for you and your family and find out all the nitty gritty details of the programme find out more below. 

Success Guide

Being a guilt free mum is a transition, a journey not a destination. A series of choices rather circumstances thrust upon us. If you are a mum who jumps to the front of the queue when guilt is being handed out.  Now, perhaps it’s time to head to the front of the queue for love, acceptance and kindness. Just like any other stress, guilt is a heads-up that something needs to change.

Here is your route map! 

Struggling

I am trying to look after everybody else but not looking after myself.

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Hopeful

Although I’m exhausted I have good reason to hope that I am finding the balance.

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Responsible

I am able to respond as I would wish to rather than just reacting to stress.

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Confident

I have time for both myself and my family, we are all becoming the best we can be.

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Guilt-Free

I am proud of being a Mum. I learn from my mistakes. I am non-judgemental of myself and others.

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Struggling

I am trying to look after everybody else but not looking after myself.

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Hopeful

Although I’m exhausted I have good reason to hope that I am finding the balance.

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Responsible

I am able to respond as I would wish to rather than just reacting to stress.

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Confident

I have time for both myself and my family, we are all becoming the best we can be.

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Guilt-Free

I am proud of being a Mum. I learn from my mistakes. I am non-judgemental of myself and others.

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Struggling

I am trying to look after everybody else but not looking after myself.

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Hopeful

Although I’m exhausted I have good reason to hope that I am finding the balance.

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Responsible

I am able to respond as I would wish to rather than just reacting to stress.

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Confident

I have time for both myself and my family, we are all becoming the best we can be.

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Guilt-Free

I am proud of being a Mum. I learn from my mistakes. I am non-judgemental of myself and others.

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